4 parenting styles and their effect on children
The wonderful thing about parenthood is that all parents use completely different patterns for their children. Family parenting style is a way of the parent-child relationship, the unique combination of strategies that parents use in interaction with their children.
Any disharmony in the family leads to adverse consequences in the development of the child's personality, to behavioral problems. Researcher Diane Baumrind (1960-s) and her scientific followers, Maccoby and Martin (1983) have identified four main parenting styles.
Read our article to the end to explore parenting styles in more detail. After all, it is essential for a wise parent to ensure that the child grows and develops in a supportive and healthy environment.
Authoritarian parents are often seen as fans of a strict disciplinary system with little room for negotiation.
- Parents of this style usually prefer to visually monitor their children, but not listen to them.
- The feelings of children for such parents are not a priority and these parents are rarely caring.
- Children are often punished for breaking rules that are not explained properly.
- Communication is mostly one-way: from parent to child.
Children whose parents use an authoritarian parenting style often have a problem with low self-esteem. They follow the rules very well, but they find it difficult to voice their opinions. Often these children behave in a hostile or aggressive manner. Instead of thinking creatively, they often focus on anger or repressed aggression towards their parents.
Since authoritarian parents force children to complete tasks they do not allow their children to choose interesting activities for creativity and development. This style can have negative consequences as a parenting method, so parents who use it should think about other methods of communication with children.
Permissive or indulgent parents usually give their children complete freedom and limited guidance. Such parents are more like friends than parents. Here are their main characteristics:
- Permissive parents are lenient. Usually, they start to take action when a serious problem arises.
- Their control style is something contrary to strict. They have no serious standards and generally let their children sort issues out all alone.
- Indulgent parents are usually caring and nurturing. Their communication with children is warm, friendly, and open.
- These parents are not particularly demanding and rarely punish their children.
- Their expectations of maturity and self-control are not high.
With such parents, the child usually grows up selfish, conflicted, and capricious. These children are more likely to experience difficulties in their studies, also they are unable to follow the laws and rules.
Such an atmosphere of permissiveness prevents parents and children from wisely choosing activities to develop valuable skills to achieve success in life.
Uninvolved parents give their children complete freedom and usually demonstrate a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs. Usually, these are parents who are alien to parental feelings, they are either not interested in raising children or simply do not know what to do.
To better understand this parenting style, let's take a look at some of the key characteristics of uninvolved parenting:
- The discipline in upbringing is very weak or absent
- Emotional detachment from the child
- Lack of information and care
- Limited communication with the child
- Low level of expectations from children
Modern children often spend lots of time playing online games, watching YouTube, messaging their friends on the telegram, or reading the news on the web. Uninvolved parents do not set reasonable limits to reduce the harmful impact of these addictive activities, which brings disastrous results. This may lead to problems with academic performance, low self-esteem, and depressions.
Uninvolved parents are not interested in joint creative or sports activities with their children. As a result, children experience difficulties with social adaptation and perform poorly in almost all areas of life.
Authoritative parents are intelligent and caring, and they often set high and clear expectations. children from authoritative families demonstrate a high level of self-discipline and independence. What are the specific characteristics of such parents?
- High responsiveness and high demands
- The rules of discipline are clear and their reasons are explained
- Frequent interactions occur between parent and child, according to the child's level of understanding
- Sensitive response to the emotional needs of the child
- Сonsistency in enforcing boundaries
- These parents are caring and nurturing
This so-called “democratic” parenting style usually gives the best results for children. Authoritative parents make a reasonable effort to interact with their children, creating opportunities for them to reveal their passion at different stages of their childhood until they turn 15. This type of parents knows how vital outdoor games and creative activities are to a child’s overall development and learning.
Studies have shown that children raised by authoritative parents are more self-confident about their abilities to learn new things. These children often suggest their parents book tickets for movies as well as plays and concerts instead of playing online games.
A word from Hadigro
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